What Not To Say

Please don't be offended by this post. It isn't based on anyone in particular. These are just some things people tell me and I needed to get the frustration off my chest.

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Sometimes I'm floored on some of the comments people say to me. Whether they mean it in a sincere way or their being insensitive, some things just shouldn't be said. In example, here are some things that you shouldn't say to an infertile woman.

1) Stop telling me I'm too stressed and that is why I can't get pregnant. That is not the case at all. Yes, I do get stressed at times but I know how to control my emotions and stress has not created my infertility.

2) Stop telling me we are "trying too hard". This one cracks me up. There is no such thing as trying to hard. It's simple science.... all it takes is one egg and one sperm.

3) Stop telling me to take a break. A break is not going to help. I have a infertility problem and the only way I can get pregnant is through the assistance of ART, assisted reproductive technology. A break is useless.

4) Stop telling me I'm too young and I have plenty of time to become a mother. When people tell me this I want to knock them out. There is no age limit of when you should become a mother. It's now or never for me.

5) Stop telling me I shouldn't try so hard for children when there are so many children in the world I could adopt. It's not unnatural to want my own children. Would you tell a fertile woman she was selfish for having her own children? No, I don't think so. Also to clear things up I'm not against adoption. My youngest sister is adopted and it influenced Ty and I to adopt as well. Before we were even diagnosed with infertility adoption was always something we planned on doing. But just because I'm infertile does not mean it's my responsibility to adopt all the children in the world. Before you criticize me, get your facts right!

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